My First Blog Post

“As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.” 

― Seneca

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

Imperfectly happy

Today, I have been thinking about why I am so negative about my life. I keep thinking that I should change it and adjust it in order to be happy and not so stressed. But I think it is not really about te people around me or the life I created, its about the way I look and think about it.

The last few weeks I have been a little stuck in negative thinking and seeing everything around me going “wrong”. I, a perfectionist, can find a fault in everything without effort, and I get really demotivated and unhappy if it is not all perfect in my eyes. And I kept feeling a little down, waiting for everything to fall into place and make me feel happy.

But than I let the thoughts I thought about what my life should be go. I tried to accept it for what it was and forced myself to stop thinking about all the ways that were wrong or imperfect about my life. I let go of my image of the perfect life I should be building for myself. I stopped feeling really sorry for myself and tried to look at my friends in a more compassionate way. Not only looking to my friends in a compassioned way, but also towards myself. Maybe even trying to see myself as a kid, who is trying really hard but fails sometimes. To see all the people around me also as little kids, who are trying really hard too. And to give everyone around me some room to make mistakes and be different.

This world is not about being perfect and being normal. Why should you worry about being different when you are really really happily different?

My point is, being imperfect myself, or the world around me, is not making me unhappy. But my constant obsessive thinking that it should not be is my biggest challenge in being happy. And that just accepting it and looking towards it as a beautifull little mess will make you feel a lot better on the long run.

I hope that you, also find some peace in this.

Imperfection is beauty. Madness is genius. It is better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring. ~ Marilyn Monroe

You are so much more than the signs people give you.

I have always been busy with getting people to like me.

I thought as long as the people around me like me, maybe this would convince me to like me too. I have been doing this for as long as I know now. Focusing on the reactions of others trying to see and read the signs if they like me or not. Every time I slightly get the feeling someone does not like me. My world crumbles a little bit. I start thinking, well of course they don’t like me. It’s because of this and that. Of course, they are irritated, I am annoying. If someone gives me the feeling, I am not important or not enough, I think they are right. If someone tries to put me down, I think they maybe should. This is however a dangerous game. 

There are always going to be a few persons who don’t like you, that are irritated by you or most of the time, not really care about you. But don’t forget, a lot of people do love the way you are. Are amazed by your power and your ways to make every situation better. Some people look at you and think, I want to be like her. I want her to like me because, if she likes me, I like me too. See? 

Everyone in life is looking for validation. Everyone wants to be approved by the people around us. It’s hard not to, because this is in our DNA. It’s, because of back in the days we needed other people to like us, to survive. So, it is not a bad thing if you are looking for some validation that the people around you are ok with you. Don’t beat yourself up over it. 

But remember, no one can fully understand the depths of you and all your thoughts. Not everyone is in the position to judge you. The only person that truly and really knows you, is you. Trust yourself and decide that you are amazing. Trust the people who see the good in you, because you are. Try not to doubt yourself, just because someone else does. You are so much more than the signs people give you. 

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus you own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.