I have always been busy with getting people to like me.
I thought as long as the people around me like me, maybe this would convince me to like me too. I have been doing this for as long as I know now. Focusing on the reactions of others trying to see and read the signs if they like me or not. Every time I slightly get the feeling someone does not like me. My world crumbles a little bit. I start thinking, well of course they don’t like me. It’s because of this and that. Of course, they are irritated, I am annoying. If someone gives me the feeling, I am not important or not enough, I think they are right. If someone tries to put me down, I think they maybe should. This is however a dangerous game.
There are always going to be a few persons who don’t like you, that are irritated by you or most of the time, not really care about you. But don’t forget, a lot of people do love the way you are. Are amazed by your power and your ways to make every situation better. Some people look at you and think, I want to be like her. I want her to like me because, if she likes me, I like me too. See?
Everyone in life is looking for validation. Everyone wants to be approved by the people around us. It’s hard not to, because this is in our DNA. It’s, because of back in the days we needed other people to like us, to survive. So, it is not a bad thing if you are looking for some validation that the people around you are ok with you. Don’t beat yourself up over it.
But remember, no one can fully understand the depths of you and all your thoughts. Not everyone is in the position to judge you. The only person that truly and really knows you, is you. Trust yourself and decide that you are amazing. Trust the people who see the good in you, because you are. Try not to doubt yourself, just because someone else does. You are so much more than the signs people give you.